100% Responsibility
and the Possibility
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"We're either
killing ourselves or nurturing. There is no
in-between."
Haleakala
Hew Len, Ph.D.
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Who
is this man and why is he wearing that baseball cap? |
Cat Saunders gets the scoop on Haleakala Hew Len
How do you thank someone who has helped to set
you free? How do you thank a man whose gentle spirit
and zinger statements have forever altered the
course of your life? Haleakala Hew Len is such a man
for me. Like a soul brother who shows up
unexpectedly in an hour of need. Haleakala came into
my life in March of 1985, during a time of massive
change for me. I met him during a training called
"Self I-Dentity Through Ho'oponopono," which he
facilitated along with the late Morrnah Nalamaku
Simeona, a native Hawaiian kahuna ("keeper of the
secret").
For me, Haleakala and Morrnah are part of the rhythm
of life. Though I love them both dearly, I don't
really dwell on thoughts of them as people, yet
their influence is always there for me, beating a
steady pulse like African drums in the night.
Recently, I had the honor of being asked to
interview Haleakala. It was an even greater honor to learn that
he would be coming from his home in Hawaii to meet
with me personally.
Dr. Haleakala S. Hew Len is the
president and administrator. Together with Morrnah,
Haleakala has worked with thousands of people over
the years, including groups at the United Nations,
UNESCO (United Nations Educational, Scientific and
Cultural Organization), International Human Unity
Conference on World Peace, World Peace Conference,
Traditional Indian Medicine Conference, Healers for
Peace in Europe, an the Hawaii State Teachers
Association. He also has extensive experience
working with developmentally disabled people and
with the criminally mentally ill and their families.
In all his work as an educator, the Ho'oponopono
process supports and permeates every breath of his
efforts.
Simply put, Ho'oponopono means, "to make right," or
"to rectify an error." According to the ancient
Hawaiians, error arises from thoughts that are
tainted by painful memories from the past.
Ho'oponopono offers a way to release the energy of
these painful thoughts, or errors, which cause
imbalance and disease.
Along with the updated Ho'oponopono process, Morrnah
was guided to include the three parts of the self,
which are the key to Self I-Dentity. These three
parts -- which exist in every molecule of reality --
are called the Unihipili (child/subconscious), the
Uhane (mother/conscious), and the Aumakua (father/superconscious).
When this "inner family" is in alignment, a person
is in rhythm with the Divinity. With this balance,
life begins to flow. Thus, Ho'oponopono helps
restore balance in the individual first, and then in
all of creation.
By introducing me to this three-part system, along
with the most powerful forgiveness process I know (Ho'oponopono),
Haleakala and Morrnah taught me this: the best way
to bring healing to every part of my life -- and to
the entire universe -- is to take 100%
responsibility and work on myself. In addition, they
taught the simple wisdom of total self-care. As
Haleakala said in a thank-you note after our
interview: "You take good care of yourself. If you
do, all will be beneficiaries."
Once, Haleakala left for an entire afternoon in the
middle of a training I was taking, because his
Unihipili (child/subconscious) told him to go to his
hotel and take a long nap. Of course, he was
responsible about leaving, and Morrnah was there to
teach. Even still, his exit made a lasting
impression on me. For someone like me, raised in a
family and culture that admonished me to put others
first, Haleakala's actions astounded and delighted
me. He got his nap, and I got an unforgettable
lesson in self-care.
Cat: Haleakala, when I met you in 1985, I'd just
started private practice after working as a
counselor in agencies for four years. I remember you
said, "All therapy is a form of manipulation." I
thought, "Jeez! What am I supposed to do now?" I
knew you were right, so I almost quit! Obviously, I
didn't, but that statement completely changed the
way I work with people.
Haleakala: Manipulation happens when I (as a
therapist) come from the idea that you are ill and I
am going to work on you. On the other hand, it's not
manipulation if I realize that you are coming to me
to give me a chance to look at what's going on in
me. There's a big difference.
If therapy is about your belief that you're there to
save the other person, heal the other person, or
direct the other person, then the information you
bring will come out of the intellect, the conscious
mind. But the intellect has no real understanding of
problems and how to approach them. The intellect is
so picayunish is its way of solving problems! It
doesn't realize that when a problem is solved by
transmutation -- by using Ho'oponopono or related
processes -- then the problem and everything related
to it is solved, even at microscopic levels and back
to the beginning of time.
So first of all, I think the most important question
to ask is, "What is a problem?" If you ask people
this, there's no clarity, they make up some way of
solving the problem...
Cat: ...as if the problem is "out there."
Haleakala: Yes. For example, the other day I got a
call from the daughter of a woman who is 92. She
said, "My mother's had these severe hip pains for
several weeks." While she's talking to me, I'm
asking this question of the Divinity, "What is going
on in me that I have caused that woman's pain?" And
then I ask, "How is it that I can rectify that
problem with in me?" The answers to these questions
come, and I do whatever I'm told.
Maybe a week later the woman calls me and says, "My
mother's feeling better now!" This doesn't mean the
problem won't recur, because there are often
multiple causes for what appears to be the same
problem.
Cat: I have a lot of recurring illness and chronic
pain. I work with it all the time, using
Ho'oponopono and other clearing processes to make
amends for all the pain I've caused since the
beginning of time.
Haleakala: Yes. The idea being that people like us
are in the healing professions because we have
caused a lot of pain.
Cat: Big time!
Haleakala: How wonderful to know that, and to have
people pay us for having caused them their problems!
I said this to a woman in New York, and she said,
"God, if only they knew!" But you see, nobody knows.
Psychologists, psychiatrists, they keep thinking
that they're there to help heal the other person.
So if someone like you comes to me, I say to the
Divinity, "Please, whatever is going on in me that I
have caused this pain in Cat, tell me how I can
rectify it." And I will apply whatever information
I'm given indefinitely, until your pain is gone or
until you ask me to stop. It's not so much the
effect that is important as the getting to the
problem. That's the key.
Cat: You don't focus on the outcome, because we're
not in charge of that.
Haleakala: Right. We can only petition.
Cat: We also don't know when a particular pain or
illness will shift.
Haleakala: Yes. Say a woman has been taking an herb
that was suggested for her, and it's not working.
Again, the question is "What's going on in me that
this woman is experiencing this herb not working for
her?" I would work on that. I would keep cleaning,
keep my mouth closed, and allow the process of
transmutation to take place. As soon as you engage
the intellect, the process stops. The thing to
remember when some kind of healing doesn't seem to
be working is this: there may be multiple errors --
multiple problems or painful memories that are
causing the pain. We know nothing! Only the Divinity
knows what's really going on.
I gave a presentation out in Dallas last month, and
I spoke with this woman, a Reiki master. I said,
"Let me ask you a question. When somebody comes to
you with a problem, where is that problem?" She
looked puzzled when I said, "You're the one who
caused the problem, so your client is going to pay
you to heal your problem!" Nobody gets that.
Cat: 100% responsibility.
Haleakala: 100% knowing that you're the cause of the
problem. 100% knowing that you have the
responsibility, then, to rectify the error. Can you
imagine if we all knew we are 100% responsible?
I made a deal with myself ten years ago that I would
treat myself to a hot fudge sundae -- so huge it
would make me sick -- if I could get through the day
without having some judgment of someone. I've never
been able to do it! I notice I catch myself more
often, but I never get through a day.
So how do I get that across to people -- that we are
each 100% responsible for problems? If you want to
solve a problem, work on yourself. If the problem is
with another person, for example, just ask yourself,
"What's going on in me that's causing this person to
bug me?" People only show up in your life to bug
you! If you know that, you can elevate any
situation, and you can release there. It's simple:
"I'm sorry for whatever's going on. Please forgive
me."
Cat: You don't have to actually say that out loud to
them, and you don't even have to understand the
problem.
Haleakala: That's the beauty of this. You don't have
to understand. It's like the Internet. You don't
understand all this! You just go to the Divinity and
you say, "Can we download?" and the Divinity
downloads, and then you get the necessary
information. But because we don't know who we are,
we never download direct from the Light. We go
outside.
I remember Morrnah used to say "It's an inside job."
If you want to be successful, it's an inside job.
Work on yourself!
Cat: I know that 100% responsibility is the only
thing that works, but I used to struggle with this
stuff, because I'm an overly responsible caretaker
type.
When I heard you talking about 100% responsibility
not just for myself, but for every situation and
problem, I thought, "Whoa! This is crazy! I don't
need anybody telling me to be even more
responsible!" Yet the more I thought about it, the
more I realized that there's a big difference
between overly responsible caretaking , versus
totally responsible self-care. One is about being a
good little girl, and the other is about getting
free.
I remember you talking about the years when you were
a staff psychologist at Hawaii State Hospital for
the Criminally Insane. You said that when you
started working there, the ward for criminals was
full of violence, and when you left four years
later, there was none.
Haleakala: Right. I would only go into the building
to check the results. If they still looked
depressed, then I'd work on myself some more.
Cat: Would you tell a story about using Ho'oponopono
for so-called inanimate objects?
Haleakala: I was in an auditorium once getting ready
to do a lecture, and I was talking to the chairs. I
asked, "Is there anybody I've missed? Does anyone
have a problem that I need to take care of?" One of
the chairs said, "You know, there was a guy sitting
on me today during a previous seminar who had
financial problems, and now I just feel dead!" So I
cleaned with that problem, and I could just see the
chair straightening up. Then I heard, "Okay! I'm
ready to handle the next guy!"
What I actually try to do is teach the room. I say
to the room and everything in it, "Do you want to
learn how to do Ho'oponopono? After all, I'm going
to leave soon. Wouldn't it be nice if you could do
this work for yourselves? Some say yes, some say no,
and some say, "I'm too tired!"
Then I ask the Divinity, "If they say they would
like to learn, how can I help them learn?" Most of
the time, I get this: "Leave the blue book (Self I-Dentity
Through Ho'oponopono) with them." So I just take the
blue book out and leave it on one of the chairs or
on a table while I'm talking. We don't give tables
enough credit for being quiet and aware of what is
going on!"
Ho'oponopono is really very simple. For the ancient
Hawaiians, all problems begin as thought. But having
a thought is not the problem. So what's the problem?
The problem is that all our thoughts are imbued with
painful memories, memories of persons, places, or
things.
The intellect working alone can't solve these
problems, because the intellect only manages.
Managing things is no way to solve problems. You
want to let them go! When you do Ho'oponopono, what
happens is that the Divinity takes the painful
thought and neutralizes or purifies it. You don't
purify the person, place, or thing. You neutralize
the energy you associate with that person, place or
thing. So the first stage of Ho'oponopono is the
purification of that energy.
Now something wonderful happens. Not only does that
energy get neutralized; it also gets released, so
there's a brand new slate. Buddhists call it the
Void. The final step is that you allow the Divinity
to come in and fill the void with light.
To do Ho'oponopono, you don't have to know what the
problem or error is. All you have to do is notice
any problem you are experiencing physically,
mentally, emotionally, whatever. Once you notice,
your responsibility is to immediately begin to
clean, to say, "I'm sorry. Please forgive me."
Cat: So the true job of the intellect is not to
solve problems, but to ask for forgiveness.
Haleakala: Yes. My job here on earth is twofold. My
job is first of all to make amends. My second job is
to awaken people who might be asleep. Almost
everyone is asleep! The only way I can awaken them
is to work on myself. Our interview is an example.
For weeks before our appointment today, I've been
doing the clearing work, so when you and I meet,
it's like two pools of water coming together. They
move through and let go. That's all.
Cat: In ten years of doing interviews, this is the
only one I didn't prepare for. Every time I checked
in, my Unihipili said that I should just come and be
with you. My intellect went nuts trying to convince
me that I should prepare, but I didn't.
Haleakala: Good for you! The Unihipili can be really
fun. One day I was coming down the highway in
Hawaii. When I started to head toward the usual
off-ramp, I heard my Unihipili say in a singing
voice, "I wouldn't go down there if I were you." I
thought, " But I always go there." Then when we got
closer about fifty yards away, I heard, "Hello! I
wouldn't go down there if I were you!" Second
chance. "But we always go down there!"
Now I'm talking out loud and people in cars around
me are looking at me like I'm crazy. About 25 yards
away, I hear a loud, "I wouldn't go down there if I
were you!" I went down there, and I sat for two and
a half hours. There was a huge accident. Couldn't
move back, couldn't move forward. Finally I heard my
Unihipili say, "Told you!" Then it wouldn't talk to
me for weeks! I mean, why talk to me if I wasn't
going to listen?
I remember one time when I was going to be on
television to talk about Ho'oponopono. My children
heard about it and they said, "Dad, we heard you are
going to be on TV. Make sure your socks match!" They
didn't care what I said. They just cared that my
socks matched. See how children know the important
things in life?
If
you're wondering about the baseball cap, Haleakala
wears it so he remembers not to be so intellectual.
The background blue represents the
Void, or Emptiness, and the red "P" represents
Mother Earth, or the creative force, Pele.
Cat Saunders, Ph.D. is the author of Dr. Cat's
Helping Handbook.
For more information about Cat or her book, please
visit:
http://www.drcat.org
THE NEW TIMES
SEATTLE, WA
SEPTEMBER 1997
[Reprinted with permission of The New Times]
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